Below are six passages from the Bible that let us see what is expected of a Christian woman (wife and mother). Each passage gives us insight as well as reaffirms teaching from other passages. I will attempt to give a quick summary of each passage.
Proverbs 31:10-31 – She is good to her husband, works hard and is not idle, manages the household, is compassionate towards the needy, cares for her family and makes preparations, is modest, supports her husband, spreads wisdom and kindness in her speech, isn’t lazy but cares for her house, and she fears the Lord. This woman will be praised. By who? The ones who were blessed by her the most, mainly, her husband and children.
1 Corinthians 7:32-40 – There is a distinction between a married and unmarried woman. A woman may dedicate her life to the Lord and serve him fully and without distraction. A woman may also get married, in which, her service to the Lord will look different from that of the unmarried woman because she desires to please her husband. The woman who is married is bound to her husband for life. So if a woman desires a husband she may marry or if she desires to serve the Lord full-time without getting married, she may also do so.
1 Corinthians 11:3-16 – We are instructed about two main areas about women. First, man is the head of the woman. Second, men and women are to have clear distinctions in the church which show the order of creation.
1 Timothy 2:9-15 – Speaks of a woman’s modesty in appearance, demeanor and behavior. She is to be known for good works more than her looks. She is also to be in a place of subjection, which means she doesn’t assume a position of teaching or authority over men in the church. But she does have the unique responsibility of childbearing.
1 Timothy 5:2-16 – In the church, we are supposed to treat the older woman like mothers and the younger as sisters. Also, the church should take care of and honor approved widows. This part of scriptures gives us insight into what it would expect of a “godly women” as it list those who would be worthy for support from the church. She needs to be an older woman who is known for being faithful to her husband, raising children, prayer, good works, hospitality, service and relieving the afflicted. Younger widows are not to be supported by the church but instead need to marry, bear children and guide the house. In contrast, we see that idleness which can cause gossip should not be characteristic of a Christian woman. A woman needs to properly understand her role so that she doesn’t fall into the trap of idleness.
Titus 2:3-5 – Older women in the church need to act a certain way (holiness) and teach the younger women. They are to be teachers of how to love their husbands and children, how to keep their home, what kind of demeanor to have and more, so that people will not mock the Word of God. Young women need to be willing to learn from the older godly generation.
In summary of the above passages, a Christian wife should:
- Love, serve, submit and take care of her husband.
- Love, teach, care for and bear children.
- Manage, guide and keep her home.
- Be full of good works, good speech, prayer, hospitality and compassion.
- Be modest in appearance, demeanor and behavior.
- Be teachers of and discipling the younger generation of Christian wives.