What Is The Biblical Role Of A Mother?
The biblical role of a mother is to be the assistant parent that helps through biblical femininity—selfless service. A mother should submissively take up her God-given role and take on the responsibilities of family-loving, care-taking, home-making and disciple-producing.
Establishing Biblical Motherhood
- The mother is the assistant parent because the Bible establishes the authority structure within the home as patriarchal, thus the mother is to help under the leadership of the father. She is the one who is accountable for submitting to and assisting her husband in raising their children.
Ephesians 5:22-6:3; Colossians 3:18; 1 Timothy 2:13-15
- Equality: Women are created equal with men in the sight of God. This means that the female gender is neither more or less important or valuable. They can equally serve, love and worship God. They are redeemed in the same way, and in Jesus Christ are one. But women have different roles and should hold the position of submission at home (and in the church) based on God’s original intent at creation (this doesn’t change over time or because of culture).
Genesis 1:27; 5:1-2; Galatians 3:27-28; 1 Corinthians 11:3-16
- Matriarchy: God did not create women to be the head of the home, but to serve in a position of submission under her husband. Thus, women should not be the rulers of their homes. They should assistant their husbands, the fathers, who are the head parents. This is the healthy and correct authority structure established by God.
- Femininity: Every woman is born female (physiological gender) but she has to learn what it means to be feminine (gender identity). True femininity is exemplified in the Bible and should be passed on from mother to daughter. Every woman needs to evaluate her life and see if she is living according to the Bible’s definition of femininity—selfless service. If your mother wasn’t present in your upbringing or didn’t give you an example of biblical femininity then you should seek council from female believers within your church to learn how to live in accordance to the preordained identity that God has designed for you. Every woman’s first step is a relationship with Jesus.
1 Peter 3:1-6; 1 Timothy 2:9-11
- The mother has the incredible privilege of childbearing. Originally it was Eve—the woman, who was deceived and overstepped the moral boundary that God had established, thus leading mankind into sin. Her reputation was tarnished. But now women have the ability to be delivered from this awful reputation through childbearing. This means that the mother has the unique privilege through motherhood (the relationship between a mother and her children) to lead her children away from sin if she continues in faith (trust in the gospel), charity (Christian love), holiness (sanctification) with sobriety (moderation, self-control).
1 Timothy 2:13-15
- What does this type of mother look like? She loves God with all her heart, soul, mind and strength. She loves, serves, submits and takes care of her husband. She loves, teaches, cares for and bears children. She manages, guides and keeps her home. She is full of good works, good speech, prayer, hospitality and compassion. She is modest in appearance, demeanor and behavior. She is a teacher and mentor to the younger generation of women/wives/mothers.
Proverbs 31:25-26, 29-31
Putting Primary Responsibilities Into Focus
- Family-loving: Women should by characterized by love for their families as wives and mothers. This means that God expects women to faithfully love their husbands and children. This is a special wifely love that causes her to love, serve, submit and take care of her husband and a special motherly love that causes her to affectionately nurture and tenderly nourish her children. Everyone in the family benefits from the mother’s love and are blessed.
Titus 2:4; Proverbs 31:11-12, 23, 28
- Care-taking: Women should by characterized by rearing children for their families as caretakers. A woman marries, bears children and then in unity with her husband and under his guidance takes on the primary responsibility of looking after and caring for the children (thus allowing him to fulfill his roles).
1 Timothy 5:10, 14; Ephesians 6:2-4
- Home-making: Women should by characterized by joyfully guiding the house for their families as homemakers. This means that they are keepers at home—to diligently manage, care for and take on the everyday responsibilities within their homes. They work in unity with their husbands to provide, organize and give special attention to the finances, food, clothing and whatever other necessities that their families need.
1 Timothy 5:14; Titus 2:5; Proverbs 31:13-21, 24, 27; Psalm 113:9
- Disciple-producing: Women should by characterized by a sincere faith that teaches their children the holy scriptures (even if the father isn’t a believer). This means they fear the Lord and desire to actively teach their children the way of wisdom. In everything, they desire to adorn the doctrine of God our Savior and live in such a way that the word of God be not blasphemed. Therefore, they are committed to the Word of God and see their families as ministries, their homes as the mission field and their children as potential disciples who they have the responsibility of diligently discipling in the things of the Lord.
2 Timothy 1:5; 3:14-17; Acts 16:1; Proverbs 31:1, 30; 23:24-25; Titus 2:1, 2,10
Other Areas Of Motherhood
- Mothers should submit to God’s will for their role in the family. They must repent of their rebellion or arrogance and start focusing on their primary responsibilities. Each responsibility is equally important and needed. They shouldn’t choose one over the other.
- Mothers should properly respect their husbands and have a healthy marriage that reflects the gospel so that: (1) their husbands can function as the leaders they need in raising godly children; (2) their children have a stable environment full of grace and truth.
Ephesians 5:33; Proverbs 1:8; 6:20
- Mothers can be encouraged towards biblical femininity by their husbands. Husbands should love, nourish and cherish their wives and encourage and allow their wives to serve, especially in the areas of their primary responsibilities.
- Why is the mother the assistant parent?
- What opportunity do women have to be delivered from their awful reputation?
- Can you explain equality, matriarchy, and femininity in relation to motherhood?
- What are the four primary responsibilities of motherhood?
- What are some other areas of motherhood to consider?